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I’m a sensitive, geeky nerd, and I always have been. I love fantasy fiction, video games, anime, astronomy, history, and philosophy. I don’t like sports, parties, or small talk.
For most of my life, I felt guilty for who I was, because I didn’t want or enjoy what “normal” people wanted and enjoyed:
At the same time, I was a lonely young person who wanted to feel loved.
In college, that meant emulating people who had what I thought I lacked: style, confidence, and competence. I started studying how to “dress for success,” how to charm women with Machiavellian dating tactics, and how to build an Instagram profile that would make me seem interesting and attractive.
Nothing worked. The more I tried to be “normal,” the more I hated my life. On my darkest days, I wondered if death was better than failing at life.
When I looked at my peers and my idols, I wondered how they could so effortlessly be “normal” while I struggled with even the most basic aspects of fitting in.
I started to resent the gap between me and who I thought I was supposed to be, but no matter what I did, I couldn’t cross that abyss — and it seemed to grow wider every day.
I turned my frustration inward. I began to hate myself. I would look in the mirror and vent my rage at my own reflection. I would silence my anger with alcohol. Every once in a while, I’d say or do something to ruin a friendship.
Eventually, in my mid-twenties, I found myself jobless and on the verge of homelessness with a dwindling handful of friends who were still willing to tolerate my bullshit.
Only after losing nearly everything did I begin to create myself, instead of trying to become someone else.
My identity crumbled until I was no longer gazing into an abyss between who I was and who I thought I should be; I had leaped over the edge, and I was plummeting in freefall down a chasm with no end.
That’s when I finally learned how to fly.
To become yourself, you must slay yourself. You have to let go of everything you think you’re “supposed” to be and instead figure out who the f*ck you want to be.
You have to break some rules, step on some toes, lose some friends, and give up on ideas of “success” that don’t align with the shit you actually want from life.
There’s one huge obstacle, though: your ego. Your ego creates two problems when you’re trying to become yourself:
Of these two challenges, your ego resents the second far more than the first, because at least when it’s being criticized, it’s being seen.
There is only one solution: you must become your own audience.
It’s impossible to please everyone on the planet, because each person has different wants and needs, and most of them aren’t looking at you, anyway.
So, instead of dancing like a circus monkey for the whole world, modify your performance for an audience of one. Focus on living a life that makes you proud. Strive daily to examine yourself.
Mindfulness helps here. Through mindfulness practice, you train your mind to watch your mind, instead of using your mind to watch other people.
But what should you watch for?
When you become your own audience, you solve the ego problem by giving yourself the attention you were previously seeking from others. As you continue to examine yourself, you’ll slowly start living up to your own standards.
Then, instead of being your own worst critic, you’ll become your own biggest fan.
That’s true success.
Namaste.
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